Highlanders Anonymous: Mixed martial arts, graphic design worries, and proposals

My boyfriend wants to do mixed martial arts and I’m very worried about it. I don’t want him to get hurt. We have had a few arguments about this. What should I do?

Your concerns are understandable. Mixed martial arts are not for the faint of heart. Fighters normally don’t leave a match without some sort of injury, even if it’s as minor as a busted lip. However, if this is something he really wants to do, all you can really do is be there for him while he’s training. State your concerns and leave it be. He likely appreciates your worries, since it shows him that you love him and worry about his wellbeing, but there comes a point when you need to recognize the difference between being concerned and being intrusive. If doing MMA is one of his dreams, you don’t have the right to intrude upon it. If you make this a sticking point, you’re liable to push him away. State that you are worried, but let him know that you will support him and be there if he does end up getting


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My mom and I keep fighting about my major. Right now I’m a graphic design major and she keeps saying it’s worthless. It’s REALLY bothering me! Help?

Ah yes, the old “your major sucks” argument. Research job openings in the field and the benefits of a graphic design degree and present them to her. If the job openings for graphic designers are really as limited as she believes, just tell her that it is something you really want to do. Don’t be argumentative, but let her know that this is your education.

You can also research ways to make your graphic design major more desirable to employers. Adding a marketing double major or minor can improve your job prospects, as will interning in the specific area in which you want to work. The trick to getting a job with an arts major is to exhibit flexibility in the professional world. Letting her know you have a decent game plan should ease her fears a bit.

Your mom’s probably just worried about your future. Let her know you understand where she’s coming from and try meeting her halfway. Even if she seems a bit uneasy about everything, she’s likely to trust you if you prove you have enough resources and have done your research.

I want to propose to my girlfriend but I get a dry mouth and feel dizzy just by thinking about it. How do I go about asking her if the thought of it makes me so nervous I want to puke?

Awwww! Congratulations on finding someone you care for so deeply! You’re naturally going to feel nervous about proposing to your girlfriend. This is a big step in your relationship so nerves are to be expected.

Think of one of the happiest memories you have with her. That way, instead of feeling nauseated or nervous, you’ll be smiling and/or laughing at the cute things she said or did (or how you tripped over thin air and made her laugh).

Good luck!

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