My relationship status is none of your business

Have you ever had a person say, “Why are you single?” or “You could do so much better!” It’s frustrating.

It’s funny how people constantly seem to be gossiping about other people’s relationship statuses or lack thereof. The big kicker is when that person has zero love life or just seems to pick the most horrible person for them; consequently, they end up having nothing in common and it doesn’t seem to last longer than a sad girl’s pint of Ben and Jerry’s. Those are the people who don’t seem to understand the concept of a relationship or the concept of being single and happy.

People have the choice to do what they please when it comes to relationships. Just because someone is single doesn’t mean they are unhappy, but it doesn’t necessarily mean they aren’t. Single people aren’t always looking for someone to be with. I think people really need to grasp the fact that it’s okay to be different and to be yourself. These days it’s as if everybody has to be like everybody else; that’s not cool.

Just because your best friend has a boyfriend and she talks like he’s the best thing in the world, it doesn’t mean you need a guy yourself! Relationships are different for everyone. Every relationship a person has is different from the last and the next. Single people should be allowed to be single and happy (or unhappy) if they please without someone in their ear nagging them to get a significant other.

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“Every relationship a person has is different from the last and the next.” Photo from: Creative Commons

Single doesn’t always mean looking. Maybe a person has several options and they’re just testing the waters to see which one really sticks. Maybe they want to have time to figure out who they are and what they want to do with their life; we’re in college. Single people may or may not choose to be single, but don’t just assume that you know their situation.

On the other side of the spectrum, being in a relationship isn’t always what it’s cracked up to be. Don’t get me wrong, relationships are great, but mostly when they’re with the right person or someone close to it. Relationships have pros and cons just like being single. You’ll have someone to rely on (should, anyway,) to make you laugh when your day is sucky or to get you ginger ale when you come down with something. Then again, you have someone to get angry at or walk away from when you aren’t happy. Those are the not-so-good parts of a relationship. It’s difficult to say that every relationship will be worth it in the end, but you always learn what to do and what not to do.

Next time you’re thinking about relationship statuses, take a step back for a minute. If you know what it’s like to be single, (which is safe to assume, as everyone has at one point in time) you know that you don’t like to be asked or told, so don’t do it to someone else. Along with that, don’t always go around thinking that someone in a relationship has it made and everything is lollipops and butterflies. So before you ask your closest girlfriend when she is getting her next boyfriend, think about how you would feel if someone asked you that.