At Whim we strongly discourage lying, so we’re going to be honest with you here: college is hard. Classes alone are enough to send any student into a fit of stress. When you factor in all of the social problems that come with sticking thousands of college students into such a condensed area, it almost becomes too much to navigate. Luckily, there’s one beacon in the darkness that serves as advice to those in need, and it’s being resurrected for another year of giving much-needed advice to students who are at the end of their rope. Welcome back to Highlanders Anonymous. We’re here to help.
I’ve been with my girlfriend for almost a year now, but I feel like things are not going so well. The main problem is I’m not as attracted to her as I was. Its not that she’s ugly or anything but while she’s stuck in party life, I’m about to get my degree.
Being in a relationship with someone for as long as you have (relationship years are like dog years: they count for way more) definitely makes it harder to acknowledge things that may be causing problems between the two of you. Because of that, I commend you for recognizing the source of difficulty for the two of you. However, this could be a slippery slope, as it seems like you’re already beginning to look down on her for the way that she’s choosing to enjoy her college experience. It may just be that you two enjoy yourselves in different ways, not that one is more mature than the other. As much as I love corresponding with you, having a conversation with your girlfriend about your concerns is a better way to solve your problems than having one with me.
I caught my boyfriend sexting his ex. I really like him, but I don’t know if I should be with a guy who does this. Can you help me out?
You absolutely shouldn’t. Awesome. Next question.
My roommate is starting to get really annoying. I used to just let it go, but it is starting to be an ongoing thing. How do I talk to her about it without sounding mean?
I’d recognize this as not really being a problem with her. You might need to take a step back and realize that being annoying is subjective, and that what you are really taking issue with is the fact that your personalities just don’t mesh very well. There’s no way to talk the annoying out of someone. If you’re really bothered by it, I’d recommend spending time outside of the dorm making other friends. How annoying can someone possibly be if you rarely see them?
I just found out my girlfriend eats Nutella out of the jar with a spoon. I’m seriously grossed out now, and it’s affecting our relationship! She’s otherwise a wonderful, loving person. What do I do to get past this?
I think that’s enough of this for one week.
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