I could go on for days about why rushing was the best decision of my life. I love being a part of a sorority and I love Greek Life in general. But there are plenty of reasons why going Greek isn’t for everyone. Often times, Greeks get accused of being cocky and I will say I’ve witnessed members of Greek organizations bully those who choose not to rush. But I’m here to tell you that if you feel that going Greek isn’t for you, that’s okay.
Going Greek and the rushing process itself consume a lot of time. Being in a sorority, there’s always something going on. It’s a huge commitment that takes up so much energy, so I can see why many people don’t chose to rush. There have been weeks where I have something to do in the sorority every single day, including weekends. Formal recruitment is a time of little sleep, and can be emotional and physically exhausting.
Being in a Greek organization is very costly. My dues for just a semester are well into the hundreds and, for some organizations, they can reach the thousands. Not only are dues extremely expensive, but t-shirts and letters are too. In one semester alone, we can have up to 20 something events for which t-shirts are sold. It takes a lot of self-control not to sign up for these shirts, too. Not to mention, organizations that travel a lot for retreats, banquets or just brotherhood/sisterhood events can rack up quite a gas bill.
Although I love all of my sisters very dearly, sometimes things just get downright stressful. Paying dues on time alone is very stressful. Being in a room of girls with different ideals can make you want to rip your hair out. I can’t even imagine having a position- presidents of Greek organizations are actually legally responsible for what happens in the chapter. Keeping track of weekly events, schedules and commitments on top of school work and for me, actual work, is enough to make me want to call my mom and cry.
Being Greek also means we have an extra barrier and stereotypes that we have to overcome. We’re often thought to only party and assumed to be cocky. I hate these stereotypes because they’re all so incredibly untrue. I wouldn’t be writing this article right now if I didn’t believe that it’s okay not to be Greek. Many people seem to believe that those in Greek organizations don’t see any other way of life. I will admit that I wish everyone would at least try to rush, just so they could understand what it’s like to be in our shoes.
Talking to people who aren’t Greeks, I can completely understand why they wouldn’t rush. It’s a lot to take in and it’s a huge commitment. I also understand that beyond that, some people simply have no desire to rush. It’s not for everyone. Before I rushed, I had a lot more time. I also had a bit more freedom. I didn’t feel quite as obligated to be involved, but that’s part of why I rushed. I needed structure, and I figured going Greek would be a good thing to put some structure in my life. But I don’t see it as the only way of life. Some people are organized and determined enough to find ways to be involved on campus in a wide variety of ways without rushing. But for me, it seemed like the easiest way to be more involved.
Although, unfortunately, some Greeks taunt those “GDIs” who feel no desire to rush. But I think that being a part of a Greek organization isn’t for everyone. I’ve had a very positive experience with my sorority, but I don’t believe that anyone who doesn’t wish to be a part of Greek Life is somehow beneath me. On the other side of things, though, many non-Greeks seem to feel the need to taunt Greeks as well. I think we should all respect each others lifestyles and decisions. What someone else chooses to do or abstain from isn’t for you to comment on.