I wish I had a dollar for every time one of my friends did something stupid and said, “don’t judge me!” Many times, people make mistakes and plead not to be judged. However, there may be a very fine line between judging someone for their actions and simply holding them accountable for their mistakes.
At work, when someone does something idiotic that messes up the way the store runs, it’s important to hold them accountable for their mistake so they can learn from it. When someone does something in their personal life that could be considered a mistake, it can be easy for them to cry that they’re being judged when someone mentions their mistake. However, I’ve noticed at work that workers believe they’re being judged harshly for their mistakes. The difference is that they could potentially ruin the way the restaurant operates that day if they make a big enough mistake.
When someone does something on their own time that could be considered idiotic, it’s important not to judge that person, unless whatever they did affects you personally. For example, if a sorority sister of mine was photographed drinking in her letters, she would need to be held accountable. Often, holding someone accountable gets confused with judgement. It’s important that we all own up to our mistakes and that we hold others accountable for the mistakes that they make which could affect those around them.
Unfair judgement is unnecessary and rude, while holding someone accountable can really help them in the long-run. If we don’t face consequences for our mistakes, we will continue to make those mistakes. It’s important that we are corrected in our mistakes so that we will be more careful as to not make those mistakes again.
I know when I’ve been judged harshly for personal decisions I’ve made, it’s only pushed me away from the person who’s done the judging. When someone holds me accountable for my mistakes I’ve made at work, however, I may not be grateful at first but I know that I’ll make better decisions in the future and slowly become a better, harder-working person.
We often find ourselves terrified of judgement and feel the need to protect ourselves from it. Judgement may be scary and bad, but being held accountable for your actions is very important. It teaches you to accept the mistakes you’ve made with grace and to move forward as a better version of yourself.