College is a whole new world of opportunities. But you don’t have to let the reputations of college define who YOU are. If you don’t like to party, and everyone else at college does, then that’s okay. Don’t participate in something that you don’t like. There are plenty of clubs and organizations that may fit what you like to do. College is all about “the experience,” but that experience is different for everyone. You shouldn’t have to experience it the same way as someone else. It’s okay to want to stay in and watch Netflix, or play video games. It’s also okay to participate in fraternities and sororities as well. Freshman, don’t start college thinking you have to join either of those, just because that’s what TV always portrays college life as. It’s okay to take a semester to figure out what you want.
College can or can not be about finding the “one.” But don’t make that your priority, that’s not how it works. You won’t find someone by hooking up; you should be patient. Also, people who come to college already in relationships, if you’re happy where you are, then don’t let someone tell you that your relationship will prevent you from the college experience. As I mentioned before, everyone’s experience is different.
A lot of people seem to feel like they have a hard time making friends, don’t worry. This is only the first semester and it’ll probably take a while to really get adapted to a new environment. Remember, we were confined to only a certain amount of people, who we saw every day for five days a week–it will be hard to figure out who you really click with. If you see someone you want to talk to, do it! Most everyone will be friendly, even if you’re shy.
Always remember to make this college experience for you, and not for someone else. Take baby steps, and have fun. Don’t be afraid to not do things that you are uncomfortable with, and also don’t be afraid to try new things. Always stay safe, and be yourself. That’s the only way you can truly experience college.