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Growing up is hard to do

Taking the first steps toward your future is never easy. It’s exciting, yet scary, because for the first time in your life, you’re on your own. You’ve always wanted to feel independent and as if your life is finally yours (and only yours) to live how you please, but now, you’re left feeling like maybe you’re not cut out to make these important decisions by yourself. Like maybe you’re always going to need someone else to help pick you up from the fear and doubt you’ve always felt. But maybe, you are ready to be on your own, to live without fear or reservations, to feel what it’s like to be your own person, to be who you’ve always wanted to be.

Stand on your own two feet. Photo from quickmeme.com
Stand on your own two feet. Photo from quickmeme.com

“Becoming an adult” doesn’t always have to be scary. The very phrase itself is different for each individual. It might mean moving out of your childhood home, getting your first job, taking on more responsibilities than you’ve ever had, or it could mean something completely different, that’s something you need to remember.

Everyone has different experiences with “growing up.” Never try and compare your growth with someone else because you’re never in the exact same situation as the person next to you. Your childhood, economic status, social status, and personal status never has, nor will ever be, identical to someone else’s.

Never think that your own personal growth isn’t enough or isn’t escalating at the rate as someone else. Focus on who you are, who you want to be, and where you want to go in life.

Whether or not you’re ready to take on this new chapter of your life, it’s coming, and it doesn’t have to be scary or intimidating. Even though this new chapter is filled with new responsibilities and different types of emotions, that doesn’t necessarily mean you can’t ask for help.

Being a mature person means knowing when you need help and not being too fearful or prideful to ask for it. Although it might feel like you’re being abandoned or left to fend for yourself, it isn’t true. There will always be someone willing and able to help you out. You just have to be willing to ask and accept what’s being offered to you. Take one day at a time and remember that, in the end, this is your life to live and you should live to the fullest.

Being anyone but you is overrated

In such a fake world where everyone pretends to be something they’re not, it’s getting increasingly harder to be yourself. We often idolize celebrities, wish we had their lives and even copy things they do in the hope that we will be respected or idolized as they are. I’m here to tell you, though, that trying to be like someone else is completely overrated.

Dr. Seuss says "be who you are." Graphic from I Heart  Inspiration
Dr. Seuss says “be who you are.” Graphic from I Heart Inspiration

When you are 100% your authentic self, you’ll find that you attract better company and often have experiences and opportunities that you’ll appreciate. Trying to be someone you’re not will often put you in situations that you don’t actually enjoy, but you feel the need to pretend you enjoy. You’ll also find yourself surrounded by people you don’t particularly like, because you’re  attracting people who don’t know your real interests.

When I was in high school, being myself was never safe. I’m very weird and awkward,and I was desperate to fit in somewhere, so I tried to fit in with people who I could simply tolerate. I didn’t agree with a lot of things these girls said or did– but I felt like I needed friends, so I faked it. When I got to college,  those who once judged me were no longer there.  I had a clean slate for the first time in my life. No one knew me, and there were so many people compared to my high school of 500. Because I was able to express myself more freely, I started making some of the best friends I’ve ever had. I’ve connected with people on levels I never thought were possible.

Being yourself isn’t always easy. We live in a society that is obsessed with what celebrities are wearing or doing, and often we try to copy those things, no matter the consequences. An awful example of this is the thousands of kids who have attempted the “Kylie Jenner Lip Challenge.” However, taking a leap of faith and immersing yourself in things that you actually enjoy will lead you to living a happier, healthier life. Being yourself will only allow you to feel comfortable and free, so why not give it a shot? In the wise words of  Dr. Seuss, “those who matter don’t mind and those who mind don’t matter.”