It’s no secret that Hollywood seems to be the spot where on screen romances are born and real-life love stories go to die. From Brad Pitt and Jennifer Aniston to Scarlett Johansson and Ryan Reynolds, seemingly perfect relationships are crashing and burning all the time.
A few days ago, “The Big Bang Theory’s Kaley Cuoco and her tennis star husband, Ryan Sweeting added their names to the ever growing list of failed celebrity marriages. While sources have claimed that the couple had been unhappy for a while, most information regarding the divorce is being kept under wraps with both Cuoco and Sweeting asking for privacy.
This news has left one burning question on many people’s minds: what goes so horribly wrong in celebrity marriages?
While examining her failed marriage with fellow actor, Ryan Reynolds, Scarlett Johansson explained to Parade magazine, “Acting is a very strange world to be co-existing in. It’s very volatile. There’s always going to be the more successful person. It’s related to rejection. Because actors, if they’re not having success, connect it directly to unpopularity — to the fact that nobody wants them. It’s not necessarily true. I’m constantly rejected.” Johansson when on to say that she found true happiness with her new husband, a journalist, because they are both in very different fields which takes away the competition and by extension the resentment and jealousy.
Psychotherapist M. Gary Newman has another perspective. In his article, “Why Do Celeb Marriages fail?” Newman referred to some research he had conducted earlier on women’s happiness in their marriages. He explained that he had discovered that “Women who were happily married reported spending a daily average of over 30 minutes of uninterrupted time talking to their husbands. Unhappy women reported a daily average of less than 30 minutes, and 24 percent of those unhappy reported that they spent less than five minutes a day talking to their spouses.”
Of course, being married to celebrity practically guarantees that little time will be shared solely among spouses. Newman also suggests that the personal fulfillment that fame brings alleviates the need for couples to care for each other because they can create their own happiness by themselves:
“The individuals no longer truly need the other to live happily. Instead, they just like being together. Yet a couple needs to feel that life without the other is quite impossible. If a spouse does not feel a need to have the other in his or her life on a daily basis, that is a short step away from separation.”
Of course, while Johansson and Newman’s theories hold a lot of weight, there are also more obvious reasons for divorce such as cheating. High profile cheating scandals such as Jennifer Aniston and Brad Pitt’s back in 2005 and more recently, golf legend, Tiger Woods’ are usually what the public jump straight to when word of a new celebrity divorce surfaces. For Aniston and Pitt, their relationship ended when Pitt cheated on Aniston with his “Mr. and Mrs. Smith” co-star, Angelina Jolie.
While rumors swirled about Aniston and Jolie’s rivalry due to Pitt’s infidelity back in the day, recently Aniston has spoken out saying, “Nobody did anything wrong. You know what I mean? It was just like, sometimes things [happen]. If the world only could just stop with the stupid, soap-opera bulls–t. There’s no story. I mean, at this point it’s starting to become—please, give more credit to these human beings.”
There are so many reasons why a marriage can fail- add adoring fans, crazy work schedules, and insane amounts of money and these reasons seem even more evident. Hopefully as Kaley Cuoco and Ryan Sweeting move forward with their divorce, they find the closure that so many of their fellow stars have found.
Renee Zellweger recently appeared at the Elle Awards looking a bit different. Many have speculated that she may have had some extreme plastic surgery. Whether or not Zellweger did have surgery, one thing’s for sure: the media lost it’s mind over her new appearance. Fox 411 compared a photo of Zellweger at the Elle Awards to a photo of her from the early 2000’s. Wherever you look, many are criticizing Zellweger for changing her “signature” look.
Any time a celebrity undergoes plastic surgery, there are bound to be criticisms. When Heidi Montag from “The Hills” got plastic surgery, there was a media firestorm. She looked drastically different and many were worried she went too far. Although I can honestly say I haven’t seen a single one of Zellweger’s movies, I feel the need to defend her.
Being a woman is exhausting. We’re expected to look nice all the time and we’re constantly finding things about ourselves that we don’t like. It’s frustrating to see women getting criticized for something that’s only skin-deep. It seems like it doesn’t matter how talented someone is, because their appearance comes first. Of course appearances are important, but they should never trump the person living inside the body. We’ve all gotten into the terrible habit of writing off parts of someone’s personality because of their looks.
I know it won’t happen over night or even in my lifetime, but I think it’s time we train ourselves out of that habit. We all need to look past what’s in front of our eyes and embrace the person underneath. Life is so temporary and so are looks, but what a person achieves in their lifetime can never be reversed. As time passes, our skin wrinkles and our hair grays but the things you’ve accomplished don’t just disappear. If you make a big enough footprint on this world, it will be remembered forever.
Although Zellweger may look different, she’s the same person. She’s gotten older and decided to get surgery to make herself feel better, so what? She’s still a talented actress and the same person. If she’s happy, that’s great. There’s too much distress and unhappiness in this world to put down someone for doing what they believed would make them happy. Instead of discouraging each other, we should all lift each other up and make happiness our goal. We need to make it our mission in life to spread as much happiness as possible within the small window of time we are here.