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Prove yourself

When it comes to transgender issues, the number one “problem” a transgender person shouldn’t have to deal with is proving themselves to other people. My little brother is going through these experiences right now, having to prove and explain himself to every other person and their brother because in order to get what you want as a transgender person, you have to prove that the transition is really what you want.

“What person would lie about being transgender? What benefits does that type of person receive? “

A couple weeks ago, my family and I went to an endocrinologist, a doctor who deals with hormones, and is the doctor that approves or denies the distribution of HRT, or hormone replacement therapy. It’s a drug that, depending on one’s situation, will lower the rate at which testosterone or estrogen is expelled throughout the body. In order to begin this processes, my little brother has to prove himself to the doctor, has to explain and make her believe that he is truly transgender, that he isn’t mentally unstable or lying about what he wants. What person would lie about being transgender? What benefits does that type of person receive? Obviously, it’s a serious worry that doctors have but I find it hard to believe that it occurs regularly.

I understand that doctors and specialists want to be cautious about moving forward with a treatment that is potentially irreversible; however, at some point, it gets condescending and inappropriate when continuously questioning someone’s authentic self.

I’m sure it makes it harder to come out because you’re immediately hit with questions implying that you don’t know what you want, that “you have to be extremely sure about this” before moving forward. Don’t you think that a transgender person would be sure about themselves before even telling anyone in the first place?

Having to prove yourself to random strangers is unfair and condescending, but necessary to get what a transgender person wants, which is to be able to be their authentic self, to be who they’ve always known they’ve been inside. In the end, all of the formalities are irrelevant as long as their happiness is retrieved after all of the struggling and heartache. Let people be who they want to be without the hassle.

Karma’s a bitch and so is that entitled prick

Dealing with entitled people is one of the most difficult tasks to take on. You have to deal with their sarcastic and demeaning remarks, judgemental looks, negative energy, and so on. Every time you’re in the same room with them, you have this overwhelming need to either run as far as you can or punch them right in their cocky face. But what do you think is the real reason behind their entitlement? Do you think it’s caused by a specific kind of upbringing or is it because of the people they surround themselves with? Or is it simply because they just suck as a person?

Just stop. Nobody likes you. Photo from memegenerator
Just stop. Nobody likes you. Photo from memegenerator

Let’s examine the typical entitled jerk. He starts out by walking around as if he owns the very ground he walks on. He thinks he has the right to treat those that are different or less fortune than him  in a disrespectful and condescending manner. He walks through your kitchen, eats all of your food, and feels like he has the right to simply because of who he is. He loves to take your car to go “hook up” with random people, using most of your gas, but feels no guilt because he’s entitled to everything you pay for and earn.

Now, as you can see, this might only be my situation but everyone knows that one guy, or girl for that matter, who loves to take and take but never gives back because he doesn’t think he needs to, because he’s him.

Now, how do you deal with this self-righteous, condescending, entitled human being? I have yet to discover how to handle this type of person without starting an argument or wanting to physically harm said person.

When you try to talk to him about the issues you have with him, he somehow makes it seem like it’s your fault, that you’re overreacting and the real problem here is you. He yells and loves to instigate, making it that much harder not to pick up the first thing you see and chuck it at his stupid face.

But in the end, you know that he’s the problem, he’s the one that needs the help, and he’s the one that deserves everything that’s coming to him and some time in the future, karma will do it’s job and you’ll have forgotten all about the guy who made your life hell for a long time. He’ll get what’s coming to him. Just you wait.