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The Stigma Surrounding Divorce

While marriage is not something that is on the mind of many Radford University students, it nonetheless hangs over us like a specter. Many people around college age, particularly women, are expected to get married sooner rather than later. It often seems like one is expected to get married as soon as they turn 18 or 21. For that matter, if someone has any sort of long-term romantic relationship with another person, they will often get asked, “Do you plan on getting married?” But the thing no one even wants to mention is the prospect of divorce.

There is a lot of societal pressure to stay married once you are, regardless of how bad the situation gets. If a couple does get a divorce, then everyone silently judges them. People think one or both of them must have done something horribly wrong, that they just did not know how to handle marriage and that it is their own fault for getting married in the first place. But why is that? Why can a married couple not just come to the conclusion that they are not happy together anymore and amicably split apart?

Divorce has long been seen as this terrible thing that only happens in dire circumstances, (as if marriage is the best thing that can happen to you and divorce is the worst thing that can happen), but that simply is not the case. The stigma surrounding divorce needs to be removed; people need to understand that getting a divorce does not make you a bad person and that you can get one simply because you’re not happy in your marriage. People are not required to be miserable because they married the wrong person. Life is a lot of trial and error and given the massive amount human beings that exist, there is a good chance that the first person you marry will not be the person to make you happy for the rest of your life. Which is not to say you cannot marry that person on the first try. Just know that you are allowed to be happy, and if that means getting a divorce then that does not make you a bad person.

 

 

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Most aggravating on screen couples

Is anything worse than watching your favorite show and your dream pairing keeps playing the “Will they, won’t they” game? For every great show there is at least one couple that makes you want to rip your hair out with how complicated they make their relationship. Here are just a few of those couples:

1) Ross and Rachel from “Friends”

Everyone knows this one, but every time I re-watch this show I get mad again. I mean, come on, THEY WERE ON A BREAK!

2) Matty and Jenna from “Awkward”

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“For every great show there is at least one couple that makes you want to rip your hair out.”

They hook up, they don’t get together, they get together, they break up over something dumb, someone else gets involved in the relationship and complicates things, repeat, repeat, repeat. There have been at least 10 moments in which the couple “realized” they were meant to be only to have some insignificant high school drama ruin it again. The show is entertaining but this relationship makes you think that no one in high school should ever be allowed to date.

3) Chuck and Blair from “Gossip Girl”

Yes, they ended up together but along the way you have to wonder, why they’re so hell bent on constantly screwing up their relationship? My biggest thing with this dream team is the fact that they constantly pretend to be in love with other people while cheating on those people with each other…

4) Danny and Riley from “Baby Daddy”

These best friends were obviously meant to be. Danny is completely hot and has loved Riley his whole life, even back when she was hefty and yet she is nuts about his brother. Watching this show is beyond frustrating.

5) Every relationship in “Pretty Little Liars”

When is breaking up with someone “for their own good” ever the answer? If a crazed murderer is stalking you then leave town, don’t dump the person you’re in love with!

6) Jane and Michael in “Jane the Virgin”

“Jane the Virgin” is an aggravating show for a multitude of reasons, but the worst part is the relationship between Jane and Michael. They’ve been together for over two years and are planning on getting married when the show first starts and Jane finds out she’s been accidently artificially inseminated. Despite Jane deciding to keep the random baby that got put inside her, Michael still wants to marry her and is even willing to raise the kid. This doesn’t stop Jane from dumping him for the guy whose sample was used to impregnate her even though she barely knows him.

I get the need for drama in TV shows, but it’s too frustrating when good couples are constantly on the rocks for the sake of ratings. Maybe I just shouldn’t be allowed to watch television anymore.

Update on Camren

My shipper heart is dead. Not just dead, crushed and ripped to pieces. Trampled all over and then thrown into a burning hot fire never to be seen again. My OTP, my forever kind of love, my heart’s one true desire has finally crashed and burned and the worst part about it is I can’t do anything about it.

The two girls from Fifth Harmony, Camila Cabello and Lauren Jauregui, have finally called it quits on their fictional relationship. Well, it was as real as the grass is green for me but it’s much too soon for my broken heart to talk about it. These girls have been shipped together since the very beginning of their career, their auditions for X Factor three years ago and the love and shipping has only become more intense since.

Camila and Lauren have been best friends for three years, “instantly clicking the moment they saw each other” said Camila in a birthday post to Lauren.

At first the shipping was innocent. Lauren herself coined the ship name “Camren” to her twitter followers a few years ago. However, when their fans started to become very, let’s say, creative with the ship by creating fanfiction, fan art, Camren videos, etc., the girls started to become distant and awkward around each other. I think this was because the girls began to see those pictures and those videos and wondered themselves if there was something stronger than friendship between them. They were confused by the way that they looked at each other, unconsciously sneaking glances and attempting to discreetly touch each other when they thought nobody was looking. They weren’t ready to see what the fans were seeing so they distanced themselves from each other to prevent rumors.

I think management also had a part in their sudden end to their friendship in public eye. They have said before that “they aren’t allowed to talk about Camren” said Camila in an interview. That makes us Camren shippers curious about what else the management doesn’t want them doing or saying because of whatever reasons they have up their sleeves. The bottom line is, Lauren and Camila were fine with the ship, that is, until the truth started to surface itself with proof of lovestruck eyes and subtle hand holding behind their backs, until management saw it too and put it stop to as fast as they could.

Can you feel the love tonight? Do they look like just friends to you? Photo from tumblr
Can you feel the love tonight? Do they look like just friends to you? Photo from tumblr

Recently, Fifth Harmony have been touring in Europe. This tour brought Camren back to life like you wouldn’t believe. Camila and Lauren are the only girls in the group that can speak Spanish, other reason they are so close.

The girls had been interacting immensely and were giggling, laughing, and touching just like they use to. There was a video on one of the other members of Fifth Harmony snapchat’s that had Lauren speaking in the background, saying “I’m sitting next to Camila” in a loving tone. Something, which I’m sure just like every other Camren interaction, wasn’t meant to be recorded, but it was.

They were getting along great and becoming the girls they use to be. However, this honeymoon phase ended as quickly as it began. Lauren and Camila began to see the comments from the fans again, stating that Camren is alive and other Camren related topics that quickly ended their cute encounters and any chance of them sitting next to each other.

The final twist of the knife came yesterday when a snippet of their newest interview came out. Camila states that she gets upset when people that they are “linked to” romantically get hate from the fans because they say “Ugh, so gross. She belongs to Lauren.”

Yep. She said it. She actually brought up Camren and killed it brutally with the sharpest knife she could find. However, I still have some theories about this event. Camila is releasing a song with her rumored lover Shawn Mendes in three days. It’s a little convenient that three days before a new song is released she brings up Camren, which she never does. She has to promote this new song with her “boyfriend” and what better way to do that than to smash all rumors of another relationship, especially one that is within her own girl band.

Another point to make is the interview, in its entirety, hasn’t been released yet and there is still more to the story than what they gave way so my delusional shipper heart still has hope for what the girls are going to do and say next.

I don’t know about you but everything revolving around Camren has always been a bit suspicious and mysterious. Why would the girls feel they need to hide their affection if it was strictly platonic? Why would they address Camren and not the other ships within in the group?

There are so many questions that I, as Camren shipper, and all the other Camren shippers have, but I don’t think we’ll ever receive the answers to them and we’ll just have to deal with it. We will continue to ship these girls for what they show us and for what we see in their eyes when they look at each other. Nothing can change that.

If only our ships would sail

Have you ever loved a couple from a TV show, a movie, a book, or any other media so much that it’s literally all you can think about? Have you ever thought “Oh my god, these two people would be so cute together! Why don’t they fall in love already?” because I definitely have. If you don’t know, this feeling you are having is called shipping. Shipping by definition is “A term used to describe fan fictions that take previously created characters and put them as a pair. It usually refers to romantic relationships, but it can refer platonic ones as well.”

This definition states that shipping is only related to fan fictions but nowadays it has expanded to real people as well.

Some very popular ships include Brangelina (Brad Pitt and Angelina Jolie), and Kimye (Kim Kardashian and Kanye West). People love to ship celebrities because it gives them a sense of hope when it comes to love. Celebrities are always under the microscope allowing fans to create their own love story, whether it has any truth to it or not, as to why and how two people became one couple.

Shipping allows a connection to be created between celebrities and their fans because it makes the fans think that they know what’s going on in the celebrity’s life and feel as though they’ve become friends.

Lauren Jauregui and Camilla Cabello make up the shipping nickname "Camren." Graphic from I Heart It
Lauren Jauregui and Camilla Cabello make up the shipping nickname “Camren.” Graphic from We Heart It

My favorite ship that has recently gotten way out of hand is a Camren. Camren is the combination of the names Camila and Lauren from the band Fifth Harmony.

Fifth Harmony is my all-time favorite band at the moment, meaning I know everything about them, what they like, what they don’t like, and who they are in relationships with. Because I have an obsessive personality, I have seen basically every interview, radio interview, and live performance they have ever done and each time Camren is alive and more obvious than they think.

I genuinely believe that they are in love or have been in love and are hiding it from the public. If you watch one of the most famous Camren videos, you can see for yourself the way that they look at each other and how one touch can make them happy.

However, because Camila and Lauren heard about the Camren ship, they have stopped interacting as much and don’t even have the strong friendship they use to have. This is where shipping can go too far. If you directly tell them that they are in love or tell them what their sexuality is, that is going too far.

Trying to force a label on somebody is wrong to begin with, making them uncomfortable within themselves as well as affecting their relationship with each other. I’m not sure why it has made them uncomfortable, unless there is some truth to it that they’re not allowed to talk about.

Bottom line, however, is if it makes someone uncomfortable, stop. Simple as that.

Shipping is something that I enjoy doing, no matter how painful and heart breaking it can be. Love is such a strong emotion and one of the only emotions that can’t be controlled. You can ship and be in love with two people all you want, just don’t cross that line.

Art and science: the world’s best couple?

Do art and science make a good couple? Graphic by Katie Gibson
Do art and science make a good couple? Graphic by Katie Gibson

Art has been one of the most efficient ways to learn about the cultures of the world. There isn’t an exact estimate on when humans began making art, but we have examples dating back to roughly 50,000 years.  From what we have gathered, prehistoric art was created to depict religious stories and rituals.. Creating statues for their gods and goddesses in hope it would provide them good fortune, fertility, food, etc.

5,500 years ago, the first known system of writing was developed by the Sumerians. This form of writing is known as cuneiform.  Somewhere in the fourth millennium BCE, the ancient Egyptians developed the world’s first writing system, which we all know today as hieroglyphs/hieroglyphics.  Each of these writing systems used little symbols and pictures to depict stories and historical events.

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Which brings me to my point– art not only has been influencing the world historically, but also scientifically.

The reason we view some art and find it visually appealing, is because the artists took the time to create what they knew our brains would like biologically. When we see a cute little kitty, we think it is cute because their eyes are so much bigger in proportion to their heads. Imagine if we saw a cat with eyes the size of a rat’s eyes. They would probably be terrifying then.

When you view a work of a human who is represented as innocent, or perhaps devout, then maybe they would be represented with larger eyes to show their purity.

Art could also walk hand in hand with psychology. In art, there is this principle called line. It can be an actual, visual line that we see, or an implied line that our brain fills in. In psychology, we call what art calls implied line, closure.  Closure is where our brain will see a cut out figure, but then fill in the gaps to create a new image. There are many other examples of how the two tie together, such as how sometimes our brain recognizes one image, and then another although it is just one image made up of many other images. In art that would most likely be known as illusion. Our brain likes to play tricks on us, and artists know exactly how to create compositions to do just that.

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There is a video by a youtuber under the name Vsauce, who talks and describes in a video titled  “Messages for the Future” just how we use art and science to potentially inform other lifeforms. In this video, Michael Stevens tells us about how there are these satellites launched up into space, some in orbit within our solar system, others, interstellar. Some have records with images of earth and earthlings. There is one, that has these plaques on it with images of what the typical human being looks like and messages written on them in binary code, in hopes that if someday, extra terrestrial beings were to discover them, they would be intelligent enough to decipher it. One satellite even has a record with a recordings of songs, human voices, animals and even a message from former president Jimmy Carter.

This record also contains 116 images, as well as the directions encrypted on the back. Stevens not only explains this, but also other ideas of how we could potentially reach out to other life, so be it. If interested, please check out the video, it is extremely informing and enlightening, and also shows how today, we still refer back to that ancient way of art, to document our existence.

Get outta my face!

Some ask themselves whether having another person around is worth it or not. Is the other doing more harm than good in their life? Well, if you’re blaming your boyfriend for you not turning in your project on time, maybe take a look in the mirror. Ultimately, we are all responsible for our own actions.

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“Some ask themselves whether having another person around is worth it or not.”

If you are keeping someone around that you always want to be interacting with, that can become a truly distracting presence for you. That can prevent you from being focused on your important responsibilities. It is your decision to keep being around another person or not. No matter what you think, the choice is always yours.

There is no reason to yell at your girlfriend for sitting in the same room and chatting with you when you are trying to write a paper that is due in ten minutes. What you should do is tell them that you have work to get done. Then, if need be, you can move to another location, free of chatter!

When a relationship is taking over your life, to the point where you can’t seem to get anything done for yourself, then maybe reassess the relationship. It doesn’t do anyone any good when you are always upset at your significant other. Also, if they care about you, and you feel that you need to end a relationship, because it is helping more than hurting, do it. Loving someone should also mean that they will understand where you are coming from and respect your choice, even if it hurts their feelings.

Something else that should be taken into account: If you are not distracted from your work by your significant other, are you taken out of other relationships due to them? If so, that can also hurt you in the long run. For instance, if your girl/boyfriend keeps you away from your friends and close loved ones most of the time, that is very unhealthy. Having balance in your life is key. All in all, if you can’t maintain that balance, it is probably time to rethink your relationship and whether or not to continue with during this vital time of growth and learning in your life.