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Growing up is hard to do

Taking the first steps toward your future is never easy. It’s exciting, yet scary, because for the first time in your life, you’re on your own. You’ve always wanted to feel independent and as if your life is finally yours (and only yours) to live how you please, but now, you’re left feeling like maybe you’re not cut out to make these important decisions by yourself. Like maybe you’re always going to need someone else to help pick you up from the fear and doubt you’ve always felt. But maybe, you are ready to be on your own, to live without fear or reservations, to feel what it’s like to be your own person, to be who you’ve always wanted to be.

Stand on your own two feet. Photo from quickmeme.com
Stand on your own two feet. Photo from quickmeme.com

“Becoming an adult” doesn’t always have to be scary. The very phrase itself is different for each individual. It might mean moving out of your childhood home, getting your first job, taking on more responsibilities than you’ve ever had, or it could mean something completely different, that’s something you need to remember.

Everyone has different experiences with “growing up.” Never try and compare your growth with someone else because you’re never in the exact same situation as the person next to you. Your childhood, economic status, social status, and personal status never has, nor will ever be, identical to someone else’s.

Never think that your own personal growth isn’t enough or isn’t escalating at the rate as someone else. Focus on who you are, who you want to be, and where you want to go in life.

Whether or not you’re ready to take on this new chapter of your life, it’s coming, and it doesn’t have to be scary or intimidating. Even though this new chapter is filled with new responsibilities and different types of emotions, that doesn’t necessarily mean you can’t ask for help.

Being a mature person means knowing when you need help and not being too fearful or prideful to ask for it. Although it might feel like you’re being abandoned or left to fend for yourself, it isn’t true. There will always be someone willing and able to help you out. You just have to be willing to ask and accept what’s being offered to you. Take one day at a time and remember that, in the end, this is your life to live and you should live to the fullest.

Judging vs. Holding Accountable

I wish I had a dollar for every time one of my friends did something stupid and said, “don’t judge me!” Many times, people make mistakes and plead not to be judged. However, there may be a very fine line between judging someone for their actions and simply holding them accountable for their mistakes.

At work, when someone does something idiotic that messes up the way the store runs, it’s important to hold them accountable for their mistake so they can learn from it. When someone does something in their personal life that could be considered a mistake, it can be easy for them to cry that they’re being judged when someone mentions their mistake. However, I’ve noticed at work that workers believe they’re being judged harshly for their mistakes. The difference is that they could potentially ruin the way the restaurant operates that day if they make a big enough mistake.

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“However, there may be a very fine line between judging someone for their actions and simply holding them accountable for their mistakes.”

When someone does something on their own time that could be considered idiotic, it’s important not to judge that person, unless whatever they did affects you personally. For example, if a sorority sister of mine was photographed drinking in her letters, she would need to be held accountable. Often, holding someone accountable gets confused with judgement. It’s important that we all own up to our mistakes and that we hold others accountable for the mistakes that they make which could affect those around them.

Unfair judgement is unnecessary and rude, while holding someone accountable can really help them in the long-run. If we don’t face consequences for our mistakes, we will continue to make those mistakes. It’s important that we are corrected in our mistakes so that we will be more careful as to not make those mistakes again.

I know when I’ve been judged harshly for personal decisions I’ve made, it’s only pushed me away from the person who’s done the judging. When someone holds me accountable for my mistakes I’ve made at work, however, I may not be grateful at first but I know that I’ll make better decisions in the future and slowly become a better, harder-working person.

We often find ourselves terrified of judgement and feel the need to protect ourselves from it. Judgement may be scary and bad, but being held accountable for your actions is very important. It teaches you to accept the mistakes you’ve made with grace and to move forward as a better version of yourself.

Life lessons from tattoos

For most of my life, I’ve been told by older relatives that tattoos are of the Devil and everyone who gets them is going to Hell. I remember drawing on my arms and legs when I was little, imagining the day when my skin would be covered in beautiful works of art. I’ve always thought highly of tattoos as a way of expressing oneself, but tattoos have also taught me quite a bit about myself as a person. Continue reading Life lessons from tattoos