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Hazel Eyes

The touch, the feel,

The heat, the sweat.

A hand running along the hip,

Feeling of rose petal lips against the heart.

 

Dark, spiraled hair of ebony,

The golden-green hazel eyes framed so well.

The soft, pale pink lips,

Often mistaken for a cloud.

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“Those hazel eyes see horror and pain.” Photo from: www.muscledudelife.com

 

 

 

 

 

 

Those hazel eyes see horror and pain.

Her pale lips are lowered.

These curls hide the face of a girl.

 

Those who passed her over,

Who didn’t bother to look beyond her skin,

Far too self-centered to see the damage,

Unable to see the women she would become.

What is gender?

Gender is more than what’s in you pants.
Graphic from learn.uvm.edu

Gender, by definition, is the range of characteristics pertaining to, and differentiating between and from masculinity and femininity. Nowhere in that definition does it say anything about the type of genitalia you have. Gender is a social construct forced on to people by society attempting to make everyone fit into one of two categories, masculine or feminine. Unfortunately, American society has decided that to be masculine means to be a boy and to be feminine means to be a girl. However, that’s not what it means all over the world. It some countries, the women are seen as more masculine, building homes and finding food, the bread winners if you will, while the men take care of the children and stay at home, taking the feminine traits for themselves.

Gender is the idea of certain characteristics belonging to a specific genitalia. Feminine with vaginas and masculine with penises. Who decided that? I understand that there is biology involved with men being taller, having a higher center of gravity, and having less body fat making it easier to gain muscle mass. However, women can be strong too. Most of the ideas surrounding what it means to be a man and what it means to be a women are created by what society wants and expects from us.

Society has told us that men can’t cry, can’t be scared, can’t be vulnerable because those emotions are deems weak, feminine, meant for women and women only. They say that men can be angry and scary even, but it doesn’t matter because they’re showing how strong and tough they are. They’re allowed to be scary because it’s what is expected of them. Women, however, are expected to be soft-spoken, weak, submissive, kind, and every other word you could think of that could also describe a daffodil. Women aren’t allowed to be angry, to be tough, to be strong because if we are, we’re called bitches or rude. We’re told we don’t smile enough, that we’re too rough and need to lighten up. Men would never be told to lighten up.

Gender is an idea, a box, that society wants to put us into so all the jobs that are required to keep a society going are dealt with. Women take care of the children, cook, clean, while men work with other men, bringing home the money and continuing the manly man’s world. What would happen if we stopped? Stopped being what is expected and turned society on it’s head? Do you think society would end? Or would it become something worth fighting for?

Karma’s a bitch and so is that entitled prick

Dealing with entitled people is one of the most difficult tasks to take on. You have to deal with their sarcastic and demeaning remarks, judgemental looks, negative energy, and so on. Every time you’re in the same room with them, you have this overwhelming need to either run as far as you can or punch them right in their cocky face. But what do you think is the real reason behind their entitlement? Do you think it’s caused by a specific kind of upbringing or is it because of the people they surround themselves with? Or is it simply because they just suck as a person?

Just stop. Nobody likes you. Photo from memegenerator
Just stop. Nobody likes you. Photo from memegenerator

Let’s examine the typical entitled jerk. He starts out by walking around as if he owns the very ground he walks on. He thinks he has the right to treat those that are different or less fortune than him  in a disrespectful and condescending manner. He walks through your kitchen, eats all of your food, and feels like he has the right to simply because of who he is. He loves to take your car to go “hook up” with random people, using most of your gas, but feels no guilt because he’s entitled to everything you pay for and earn.

Now, as you can see, this might only be my situation but everyone knows that one guy, or girl for that matter, who loves to take and take but never gives back because he doesn’t think he needs to, because he’s him.

Now, how do you deal with this self-righteous, condescending, entitled human being? I have yet to discover how to handle this type of person without starting an argument or wanting to physically harm said person.

When you try to talk to him about the issues you have with him, he somehow makes it seem like it’s your fault, that you’re overreacting and the real problem here is you. He yells and loves to instigate, making it that much harder not to pick up the first thing you see and chuck it at his stupid face.

But in the end, you know that he’s the problem, he’s the one that needs the help, and he’s the one that deserves everything that’s coming to him and some time in the future, karma will do it’s job and you’ll have forgotten all about the guy who made your life hell for a long time. He’ll get what’s coming to him. Just you wait.

Struggles of being a girl

Are you a person who has boobs and a vagina? Do you have trouble with bras and typical materials that girls use? The struggle is all too real and it’s honestly unfair all the troubles us girls have to go through. Here are some of the main struggles I go through. I’m sure you’ll be able to relate.

    1. Sticky Bras

 

    Sticky bras can save your life or make it harder. They’re suppose to replace your regular, strappy bra, but be better. They stick to your boobs making a clasp in the back irrelevant and taking away the visibility of the clasp so you can wear backless dresses or shirts. They also make straps unnecessary, allowing you to wear dresses and shirts that come off the shoulder without being embarrassed about your straps showing. However, after a while, sticky bras can become, well, unsticky, making it very difficult to keep it on. You’ll be out with your friends when you hear the stickiness coming off, sagging your boobs, or completely falling off. All of the sudden, your bra is at your stomach and you’re forced to run to the bathroom without anyone seeing your bra or boobs falling to the ground. They’re a great invention; unfortunately, they will turn on you in the blink of an eye.

Being a girl can be hard. Photo from fakeplus
Being a girl can be hard.
Photo from fakeplus

 

   2Cameltoes

    Every girl can obtain a cameltoe. It all depends on the type of pants that you wear. Yoga pants are the major culprits, though. If you don’t know what a cameltoe is, it occurs when your pants or undergarments get pushed or stuck up in your vagina, making the image of a camel’s toe. It’s kind of gross, I know, but these things happen and sometimes you really can’t control it. Some things you can do it prevent a camel toe include wearing looser pants. Looser pants should prevent a camel toe from occurring because the fabric will be far enough away that it won’t be able to get stuck up there. You can also put a sock in your pants. A sock will create a barrier between your vagina and your pants preventing the camel toe from occurring. 

    3. Nipples

    Everyone has nipples, boys and girls. However, girls are more frowned upon, in society, for showing their nipples, whether it be on purpose or not. Girls hate it when their nipples show through their bra or their shirt, whether it’s because of the color of the nipple or because they are hard. Both of these reasons are unpreventable and can be very annoying.

A couple of tricks you can use to cover up your nipples are putting toilet paper between your nipples and the shirt or bra. People won’t be able to see the toilet paper or your nipples and everyone is happy. You can also place bandaids or tape on top of your nipples to stop them from poking through.

Being a girl can be very troublesome and difficult. However, with the right tips and tricks, you can walk outside confidently and fabulously without your bra, camel toe, or nipples saying hello to every stranger walking by. Be proud to be a girl and make it work.

Transgender issues hit home

Transgender people are simply that: people. They are the same as me and you, just with unique circumstances. Don’t you think that all people should be treated equally? That all people deserve the same rights and privileges as others? Isn’t America the land of the free and the home of the brave? What kind of world do we live in where people are being murdered every other day for being different, for being transgender?

That is not a world I want to live in, and not a country I want to be associated with  the way things are right now. I never understood the importance of transgender issues and transgender abuse until recently, when these issues began to impact me personally.

Transgender people are just people. Photo from Caitlyn Jenner.
Transgender people are just people. Photo from Caitlyn Jenner.

You can never really understand what it’s like to be affected by transgender issues until it relates to you personally. You could go on all day about how you’d vote over and over again for equal rights for all, but you never understand the true impact and importance of it all unless you are affected directly.

On Friday, October 30th, my little brother came out to me as transgender. I was shocked, to say the least; however, I had some idea that something was bothering him for sometime and somehow, I just knew. From my dance costumes he loved to wear when we was three to him growing out his hair since last

year, there have been subtle signs for as long as I can remember.

My first thought when he told me was “What if he gets murdered for being his true self?” “What if he gets hurt or bullied or something awful because he can’t hide his true self anymore?”

I was scared for him. He’s my baby brother and I need to protect him, but in this situation, I can’t control the actions of the world around me and it’s one of the most frustrating and scary feelings I have ever experienced.

I shouldn’t have to have these thoughts. I shouldn’t have to be scared for my brother’s life because of what the world and society has done to transgender people. He needs to become the person he is meant to be and I nor my family are going to let the world stop him from being happy.

Being transgender in America is dangerous, but it shouldn’t be. We, as the people of the United States, should stand up against the crimes being committed against transgender people and bring the country together as one.

We should all be equal under the constitution and no person should walk the streets of America afraid for being who they are.

Breaking the stereotype

We live in a society where being different is frowned upon. Expressing who you truly want to be is unacceptable and can make you an outcast within friends, family, and professional environments.

People can be judged on every small detail starting from how you carry yourself to how you dress. Clothing companies strive on stereotypes created by a society built on fitting into a certain category, making it that much harder to tear down the walls and expand out of what is expected of us.

Don’t you wish we could define ourselves however we want to? Can you imagine a world where we are allowed to wear whatever we wanted to without being judged or ridiculed for not dressing how the world wants us to? The first place we need to start is retail stores.

boy and girl
“There are “girl” sections and “boy” sections that are separated in halves. If you are a girl, you shop in the “girl” section and vice versa. If you even think about heading to the other side of the store, eyes follow your every move, confusion and judgment covering their faces.”

Clothing stores are the definition of stereotypes. There are “girl” sections and “boy” sections that are separated in halves. If you are a girl, you shop in the “girl” section and vice versa. If you even think about heading to the other side of the store, eyes follow your every move, confusion and judgment covering their faces. It’s not their fault, really. Society has constructed those people into thinking that gender comes in only black or white, boy or girl, masculine or feminine, but that simply isn’t true.

People should be defined as just that, people. Some identify as a boy or as a girl, but some people don’t. It isn’t fair to expect someone to fit into a specific definition when it’s way more complicated than that.

I’m a girl who likes to wear “girly” clothing but I also love to wear “boy” clothing. When I head over to the “boy” section of a store, I want to feel comfortable and like I belong there, not as if I am confused or out of place. Clothing companies owe it to us to give us the opportunity to be our authentic selves, not to be forced to be the person we think we should be.

Designers need to catch up to the 21st century and start designing clothes that are gender neutral. I’ve been dying to see clothes that have always been made for boys being made for girls. Start creating masculine clothing that fits my small frame. One of the most frustrating experiences is finding a shirt or a pair of pants in the “boy’s” section that I love but having it be way too big for me.

If designers starting making “boy’s” clothes fit girls, it would allow for the inclusion of all genders as well as let everyone wear the clothes they want to and to feel comfortable in those clothes.

Of course, I know that beginning to make clothes gender neutral doesn’t create the end all of gender stereotypes nor the feeling of not fitting in; however, I believe we have to start somewhere and allowing for those who don’t fit into society’s ideal of gender were to be able to express themselves appropriately through clothes, it would be a good start.