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Highlanders Anonymous: Sororities, Stress, and Going home for the weekend

“I want to join a sorority, but I’m scared of what people will think of me. I’m not a party girl or anything, but I was really into my church growing up and this is a nice chance to meet cool people while getting back into philanthropy. Should I do it?”

When you get to college you have so many incredible opportunities to get involved at your school. Greek life is definitely a pretty cool one, but that doesn’t mean it’s for everyone. I suggest that you go to a bunch of informal rush events and mixers (if you haven’t already) to make sure that this is something that you truly want.

If it is, then to hell with everyone else’s opinions—you do what you want. It sounds like you’re getting into it for all the right reasons so the real question is, why shouldn’t you?

“I have way too much going on right now. I’m a freshman and I got involved with every club or organization I could get my hands on, but now I feel completely overwhelmed. What do I do?”

Make sure that you have a planner. It may seem elementary school-ish, but they really do work. Write down everything that you have to do every week including the due dates. This will help you organize everything in your mind which will certainly help with the stress.

Secondly, with all of your events and homework be sure to schedule in some time alone for yourself. “Monday 6pm- 8pm: watch two Once Upon A Time episodes with Halloween cookies.” It may seem dumb, but when you have to schedule everything else in your life so carefully it helps to know that you’re guaranteed some “me” time.

“I have a boyfriend back home that I really want to visit, but I don’t have a car. The longer we go without seeing each other the crazier I feel. I knew that long-distance would be hard, but I’m not sure if I can handle only seeing each other once every few months.”

First of all, yes, long-distance will continue to be hard, but there’s no reason that you guys can’t see each other on the weekends. There’s a bus that leaves Radford every Friday to take you to the real bus station and it returns on Sundays. It’s not too expensive either.

Another option you have is hitching a ride with someone else headed in that direction. Post on the RU Facebook page for your graduating class to see if anyone is headed where you want to go. Most people are willing to even go out of their way for you if you offer to pay for gas.

That’s all for this week, but remember to send in your anonymous questions for us to answer! Next week could be your question!

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Photo by: Danielle Johnson. Students: Sydney Puryear and Olivia Moorehead

When you get to college you have so many incredible opportunities to get involved at your school. Greek life is definitely a pretty cool one, but that doesn’t mean it’s for everyone. I suggest that you go to a bunch of informal rush events and mixers (if you haven’t already) to make sure that this is something that you truly want.

If it is, then to hell with everyone else’s opinions—you do what you want. It sounds like you’re getting into it for all the right reasons so the real question is, why shouldn’t you?

 

 

Highlanders Anonymous: Attendance grades and heartbreak

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“If your professor isn’t willing to help you out, then I suggest you attend class anyway.” Photo by: Sydney Crawson.

“My professor grades his students on attendance. I am constantly sick, and don’t have the time to be going to the doctor all of the time for a note to excuse me from class, but I also don’t want to fail. What do I do?”First, you really should go to the doctor at least once to try and get some medicine that will get rid of whatever you have for good. If you’ve already done that and are still getting sick, you really need to talk to your professor. Explain the whole situation to him or her, and suggest a person who regularly attends class to be your note-taker. If your professor isn’t willing to help you out, then I suggest you attend class anyway; it’s honestly the only other option. Wear pajamas to class and bring a lot of tea; do whatever you can to keep yourself comfortable. If you have to go, the least you can do is feel good.

“My boyfriend of five years just broke up with me, out of nowhere. I really thought that we were meant to be and I’m so heartbroken. I can’t focus on anything, and I’m so behind on my schoolwork. I don’t know what to do.”

I’d definitely suggest that you seek him out and talk to him. This breakup probably wasn’t out of nowhere for him, and finding out what happened might help you find some peace. On the other hand, maybe you had a big fight and his decision to break it off was spur-of-the-moment. In this case, he might be regretting breaking up with you. Seeing you now might help him to put in a final decision about whether or not he really wants your relationship to be over. In either case, you’ll continue feeling lost until you finalize what happened between you two.

“Last night I was intoxicated and wrote up my paper for my CORE class (Don’t worry, I’m 21). The only problem is that the paper was awful and I submitted it anyway. I still have time to rewrite it before the due-date, but I have no idea how to turn in the real paper now.”

I hope this situation has taught you about the problems of writing while intoxicated, so, don’t do it in the future. Since you still have time, go ahead and write up the second version of the paper, and try and resubmit it. Most drop-boxes let you submit things multiple times for cases like this. If that doesn’t work, email your professor and explain that you don’t want the paper you submitted to be graded, and that you have the replacement. He or she will most likely either change the drop-box settings to allow you to resubmit, or will accept the paper via email.

I hope I helped with your problems! If you have any other problems, comments, concerns, or questions, send them in to Highlanders Anonymous.