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Is it cheating?

When it comes to relationships, everyone has a different definition of cheating. For some people, cheating strictly means having sex with someone else. For other, kissing or even just thinking about being with someone else is cheating and isn’t tolerated, a zero toleration policy. I know one couple who give each other passes, where they can do whatever they want with other people and face no consequences for it. Here are the main ways to cheat and the different viewpoints surrounding them.

  1. Is it cheating? Graphic from Sex Advice Online
    Is it cheating? Graphic from Sex Advice Online

    Is thinking about another person intimately cheating?

In many relationships, mentally cheating on someone is the same, if not worse, than physically cheating on them. Relationships are based on a mental and emotional connection and if that get severed, than the basis for one’s relationship is broken or, essentially, built on false pretenses the entire time. It would be absolutely heartbreaking to know that your relationship is a lie and the connection you thought you had with someone is not as special as you thought.

  1. Is watching porn cheating?

Some people believe that watching porn is cheating, based on the idea that watching other people have sex is connecting to the cheating mentally idea. If you’re thinking about other people sexually, going as far as masturbating to other people, then essentially you’re having sex with different people in your mind, making it cheating and devastating to your partner.

  1.  When straight girls kiss other girls while being in a relationship, is it cheating?

This is a controversial question. There are many guys who would say no to this question because they think their girlfriends kissing other girls is hot and, somewhat, not real because they aren’t gay. However, this idea is detrimental to the gay community. It’s what doesn’t stop guys from hitting on girls who say they have a girlfriend. They don’t take it seriously because they think all lesbians are kissing girls for their entertainment and that, in the end, they’ll go back to dating men.

Girls kissing other girls should be considered cheating because it is. The gender of the person who is cheating with the person in the relationship really doesn’t matter. They were unfaithful. Simple as that.

Cheating, I think, is a black and white issue. Did you kiss/have sex with someone who isn’t me? Yes? Then you cheated on me. Bye. Although I agree that some cases of cheating are more complicated than others, cheating is cheating and it should never be done, no matter the circumstances. If you’re having problems in the relationship, talk them out. If you break up, that’s okay. It’s way better the break up than to cheat on your partner. Think before your decide to cheat.

Energy vampires

Energy vampires are people who suck the positive energy from your being, whether they do so consciously or not. They can be friends, family, or even people you have just met. Energy vampires tend to focus on people who are easily suggestible, have low self-esteem, and wish to drain their victim of all positive energy. Most energy vampires are unhappy themselves, and in some cases, their subconscious is at fault.  The energy vampire, themselves, can’t control the energy they create or take away.

Victims of energy vampires see improvements the second they have detached from the vampire, when they have left the room or cut them off them off completely. Energy vampires usually use fear as the gateway into stealing your positive energy, but if you protect yourself from these types of people with spiritual techniques, they can’t take advantage of you.

Do you know any vampires that drain you of energy? Graphic from
Do you know any vampires that drain you of energy? Graphic from The Tarot Lady

My girlfriend had an event at her church called the “Soup and Sandwich Luncheon,” which by the title, you can guess what it entailed. On our way there, we both had a bad feeling about what was to occur, seeing as she left her church two years ago after attending for 16 years, having been done with dealing with a fire and brimstone type of environment. However, her parents wanted to see her and we felt obligated to go.

The second we walked into the building, people my girlfriend use to call friends all turned and stared at us, going as far as rolling their eyes at our presence. I immediately felt this heavy weight on my chest and my stomach began to hurt. My girlfriend started to cry because of the way they treated her, judging and whispering as if we couldn’t hear them.

After the initial feelings we experienced, we got our food and sat down next to her parents, unfortunately, leaving me to sit at the energy vampire’s table. They didn’t speak to me and I didn’t speak to them, but I could feel their eyes on me, trying to intimidate me and make me feel embarrassed or unwelcomed. I tried my best to ignore them and listen to a different conversation.

Later on, after the energy vampires had left, I felt very tired, as if I had just worked an eight hour shift, or took a six hour road trip. I couldn’t explain the way I was feeling without connecting the dots to the energy vampires. I had never believed in a concept so much until I encountered those people. I felt so sick and tired, and those feeling came out of nowhere. It had to be the energy vampires, and I truly hope I never have to go back to that church.

After leaving the church and driving around in an attempt to calm myself down, I began to feel a bit better. I didn’t feel as tired and my stomach stopped hurting. I knew it was because I had put enough time and distance between myself and the energy vampires. I know now that if I ever have to go back there, I need to protect myself and learn to fight off their soul-sucking energy. Energy vampires don’t have to steal your happiness away. All you have to do is learn how to protect yourself, or simply, refuse to allow those people into your life. It’s your choice.

Exercise’s optimum point

Exercising has various health advantages; however, if you are trying to get thinner, exercise by itself may not be sufficient. A new study suggests that bodies might adjust to more elevated amounts of physical activity, so you might not burn more calories even if you work out a lot.

If you're looking to lose weight, over-exercising is not the solution. Image from Hypnosis Chicago.
If you’re looking to lose weight, over-exercising is not the solution. Image from Hypnosis Chicago.

Scientists found that the individuals in the study who engaged in moderate levels of exercise burned about 200 more calories each day, on average, than those who had the most reduced levels of physical activity. The scientists found that the individuals who were the most physically active burned an identical amount of calories as the individuals who were moderately active.

It is not explicitly known why increased levels of exercise might not lead to burning more calories, the scientists said.

Study author Herman Pontzer, an associate professor of anthropology at the City University of New York said “You still have to exercise,” because physical activity is vital for your health.

In the new study, the scientists focused on the levels of exercise and the quantity of calories burned among 332 individuals ages 25 to 45 through the span of a week. The individuals in the study lived in Ghana, South Africa, the Seychelles (an island nation in the Indian Ocean), Jamaica and the United States.

The scientists discovered that there was a little though quantifiable connection between individuals’ physical activity level and the aggregate number of calories they burned per day. However, this connection held only when the scientists contrasted the individuals with moderate activity levels with the people who had the most inactive lifestyles. Individuals who had moderate levels of physical activity burned about 200 more calories every day, on average, than the individuals who were basically inactive, the scientists discovered.

Conversely, “The most physically active people expended the same amount of calories each day as people who were only moderately active,” Pontzer said in a statement.

The scientists said that these discoveries might imply that there is an optimum point for exercise. While too little physical activity is unhealthy, working out too much might provoke the body to make acclimations to adjust.

The study’s findings are published in the journal Current Biology.

Is hazing still an issue?

Is hazing a big deal? Photo from Creative Commons.

On college campuses around the nation, hazing is still prevalent, but is it as bad as it once was? Every year since 1970, there has been a reported death due to hazing according to the University of Connecticut’s Greek Life website. There are a lot of hazing cases that don’t get reported but are still harmful, causing physical and psychological damage.

What is hazing? According to Virginia law 18.2-56, hazing is defined as, “an abusive, often humiliating form of initiation into or affiliation with a group.”

According to the University of Michigan, 55% of college students involved in clubs, teams and organizations experience hazing.

If someone were considered a pledge brother or sister, why would they be hazed? That’s the question Sigma Nu fraternity asked in “40 Answers To Common Excuses for Hazingwhich took place on Twitter.

According to Tracy Maxwell, the executive director of HazingPrevention.org, it was huge success. There were 5,000 tweets in 40 days. Some popular excuses for hazing were “pledges have to pay their dues to become a brother or sister,” and “hazing weeds out those that who don’t really want to be there.” All 40 answers can be found here.

Photo from Creative Commons.

The most popular reason was that hazing is a tradition.

If fraternities and sororities think it’s OK, can it be stopped? Hazing expert and self-proclaimed international watchdog of hazing Hank Nuwer believes the way to stop hazing is for the underclassmen to snub thought of it. If students stood up and said that hazing isn’t acceptable and dangerous, it would stop itself.

Dr. Tracy Maxwell believes that to stop hazing, schools need to do something at the campus-wide level for every organization, until people really take a hard look at hazing.

According to the National Study of Student Hazing done by Dr. Elizabeth Allen and Dr. Mary Madden in 2006, 40% of Greek Life organization members admit knowledge of hazing activities. Allen believes hazing has become a social norm in social Greek Life organizations. Hazing is glorified in movies like Dazed and Confused, where the upcoming freshmen in high school get chased and hit with wooden paddles.

On many of the Greek Life organization’s websites, they explicitly state that hazing is not allowed and will not be tolerated. Is this a rule they stick to? Many students say no.

Sam Mason was a sophomore at Radford University in 2010 when he died because of ethanol poisoning. He was pledging Tau Kappa Epsilon and lost his life. Seven TKE brothers were later indicted and charged with hazing and supplying alcohol to an underage person.

“I feel a lot has ended due to the death of Sam Mason, but I believe hazing will never truly end,” said Senior Becca Barteau. “It is a tradition in most of Greek Life and I highly doubt it will ever end.”

Dr. Tod Burke, a Radford University professor of Criminal Justice, spoke about the dangers and effects of hazing on WSLS TV and National Public Radio in Roanoke, Va. in July 2011. He touched on the fact that anti-hazing laws tend to be relaxed until something tragic happens, and that’s when action is too late.

“Hazing can be prevented, but everyone involved has to take the right steps to make it stop,” he said. “It won’t just stop on it’s own.”