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Boys can Wear Skirts and Look Cute as Fuck

My boyfriend wears skirts. Not tunics, not man-skirts, and for sure not kilts. He wears skirts and he looks damn good doing it. Unfortunately, it took years for him to build up the courage to wear skirts as much as he wanted to. He suffered because of the male standards in our culture. I want to challenge these male standards and claim that continuing to follow them will be a detriment to our society as a whole.

Since around the 1920’s, it has become increasingly culturally acceptable for women to dress in pants. Today, women have access to blazers and suits that look great. Women have the choice to dress in a feminine or masculine way because they fought and earned that choice. Men have no choices at all. They must either dress in a masculine way or face ridicule. In our broader culture it is acceptable for women to want to be more like men, but for a man to give up his masculine power is a disgrace.

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“I want to challenge these male standards and claim that continuing to follow them will be a detriment to our society as a whole.” Photo from: https://i.ytimg.com

Men are culturally trained to reject feminine clothing in our society. This is because if a man wears feminine clothes, it implies the clothing and the people wearing it are as good as men. My boyfriend has been called sissy, fag, and other terrible names for wearing skirts. All these names come from other men. The idea of another man being happy and comfortable in a skirt is such a shock to them they feel the urge to tear down what they no longer consider a real man to preserve their own masculinity and their power.

Men need feminism just as much as women do. The core idea of feminism is that men and women are equal in society. True acceptance of this elevates women to the power of men, but it also unlocks the full breadth of the human experience to men. Feminist culture invites men to feel beautiful and powerful through makeup and clothing forbidden to them in a patriarchal culture. Feminism gives men a choice to be as masculine or as feminine as they wish, and it is not a mandate to become more feminine.

Even worse, modern masculinity standards are a parody of authentic manhood. We tell our boys to restrict their emotional expression, power through their pain, and never act like a girl. In order to preserve some idealized masculine fantasy, men are encouraging themselves to be less than full human beings. This unrealizable standard that men hold themselves to leads to corrupt and toxic masculinity characterized by external violence, hate, and internal self-loathing. Men, if you consider yourself a real man, call out your male friends when you hear them talking negatively about others in any form. A simple, “Hey man, that’s not cool,” is sufficient self-policing and is a start to changing minds. This is important if we want to work towards making our culture a more just and verdant society.

The F word, empowering students one four letter word at a time

Graphic by: Alex Morgan

According to wikipedia, the F word is “an English word that is generally considered profane which, in its most literal meaning, refers to the act of sexual intercourse. However, by extension it may be used to negatively characterize anything that can be dismissed, disdained, defiled, or destroyed.” And we as college students hear it used multiple times a day by multiple people for a multitude of reasons.

Our question is, why here? Some of us rarely hear the F word used at home, but then we come back to college and it’s F this and F that and WTF? What is it about college that makes the F word so universally accepted? One hundred Radford Students were polled and 85 percent claimed to curse more here at school than they did at home, and 92 percent stated that even if they did use profanity at home, they used the F word the least. Upon further investigation it was found that some students even enjoy using the word.

Junior Jakob Harris said he used the word more here at school because, “at college it’s an adverb, but at home it’s not the same.”

He also said the word is versatile, it can be used out of joy, anger, sadness, and everything inbetween. It can describe beauty, as in, “Wow, that is f-ing beautiful.” Or confusion, “Wait what the f?” or even by itself, as in “F*!$.” Harris later stated that using the F word made him feel happy; in some cases it makes him feel like he has the upper hand in the situation.

“It’s satisfying when I get to call people out on things they did, like ‘WTF? Why the F would you do that?’ I don’t want to fix it [the problem], I just want them to know that what they did was wrong,” Harris said.

Junior Ben Belo said he uses the word here at school, “because I can’t get in trouble, and because I’m around people of my own age, on my level. It strengthens whatever I say, like it was more important, like it had more meaning. Adding the F word packs more punch.”

When asked how he felt when using the word, Belo said he felt higher up than the other person, like he has the upper hand and the power in the conversation. He said it is a good way to get someone’s attention.

Most of the female students polled said they were more comfortable using the F word in a college setting than they were anywhere else. Even when they were hanging out with friends from back home they cursed less than they do with their friends from college.

“I have to censor myself at home because I have a little brother. I feel more free at school to say what I want to say the way I want to say it.” said sophomore Whitley Rogers

“It makes me feel badass. It’s a powerful word. It adds a lot of emphasis and makes me feel empowered,” Rogers said of the word’s usage, “But it’s not just emphasis; it adds that certain type of emphasis.”

With this short word, you can get a lot across, and many of RU’s students are taking advantage. The research shows that maybe, just maybe this little four letter word could evoke some unexpected but satisfying feelings.